Respect is so important. I firmly believe in the basic respect of manners and being good to people, unless they’ve given you a solid reason not to be. Even then, I believe it’s best to remove yourself from their toxicity if you can. I do get stressed and angry about injustices and people being horrid to others who have done nothing to them, and I hate how toxic behaviour and being judgemental seems to be becoming more normalised of late.
While I believe in basic respect when meeting people etc. I also firmly believe that respect is mostly earned. Yes I’ll say my pleases and my thank yous, but if you for example, are rude to service staff, don’t expect me to respect you, because I won’t.
Respect in relationships is so important. How can you be with someone if you don’t even respect them? Let alone attracted to them, romantically or otherwise?
One of things I really love about my relationship is that there is so much respect there. Respect and trust go hand in hand with us. It’s not forced or reiterated, it just is. We respect each other in ourselves and our relationship that we support each other in the ways we need to in a long-term, committed relationship. There are many things I respect about him. His work ethic, his commitment to family, how good he is with children and animals, and the fact that underneath all the toughness he shows to the outside world, he is a big softie with me.
Sexually speaking, again, respect and trust go hand in hand. I respect how he is very much dedicated to putting my pleasure before his own, even though of course, I want him to feel pleasure as well! He wants to make sure during sex, I come first, before he does, as he doesn’t want to feel like it’s all about him and to leave me high and dry.
As well, I deeply respect how he is adiment on communication. In the first few years of our relationship, communicating my wants and needs clearly was not my forte. I’d be the type to go to bed angry if an argument was had. To run away from the problem after the bomb had dropped so to speak, coming back when the dust had cleared. He refused to do this. He would physically sit me down and have us talk, not going to bed until we talked everything through and sorted whatever disagreement we had, out.
Considering when we started dating, it was at a point in my life when I was rebelling and flying off the rails so to speak, he has calmed me down an awful lot. He taught me how to communicate properly and not to do what a lot of couples I knew previously do: hold a grudge over trivial things.
Communication for me, is essential for respect. It reinforces the respect in my relationship. It reinforces the trust.
He has taught me many things over the years we have been together, and hope he continues to teach me for many years to come.