Three days ago marks one year since coming off hormonal birth control with no intention of going back on it.
For those who are new to these updates: first of all hello and welcome! Second: I don’t take hormonal birth control and use condoms with my long-term boyfriend. As far we know we’re both armed and dangerous on the reproduction front, so no unprotected sex here.
For the most part, there’s not been any massive changes since coming off it apart from feeling relatively ‘back to normal’ so to speak. My boobs aren’t perpetually sore and I don’t have to worry about forgetting to take anything.
However, I’ve not had a period in almost seven months. I’m not pregnant (seriously, I’ve done enough tests that I should invest shares in Clearblue) and I can date it accurately as I was coming on when travelling to London for Eroticon this year.
Normal procedure advises that if you haven’t had a period for three months to see a doctor. I did and from what I told him, he surmised it was probably still straightening out from the pill. Doc’s conclusion: wait another three months and come back if still nothing has happened.
As of now, still nothing. I’m still getting PMS like symptoms, like cramps and mood swings, but they come on intermittently rather than the usual build-up before the period starts. I’ll have sudden moments where I suddenly feel really moody (that’s where ‘the brat’ can really come out blazing!) but it’ll go as quick as it comes.
The state of ‘readiness’, so to speak (fellow uterus owners will know what I’m talking about) when you feel like your period is due any moment, I feel like that a lot of the time, with nothing to show for it.
I admit, it’s annoying getting the PMS but no period. With the water retention and just generally feeling yucky that comes with it, you just want to get it done and out your system before the next cycle comes along. Until then, Mother Nature seems to be stuck in traffic.
So that means back to the doctors I go, which probably means I’ll end up having a blood test, scan or both. If in the event it is something like a hormone imbalance, however, the main course of treatment is *drum roll*: birth control pills or some other form of hormone medicine. *Groan*
If that’s the case, my answer is still going to be a big fat no. I’m not going back on hormonal birth control unless it’s a potentially life-threatening situation, where a hormonal option is my only option. i.e. How The Mirena Coil can be used for treating uterine hyperplasia (enlargement of uterine lining) that can develop into uterine cancer.
Until then, forget it. I wholly respect doctors wanting what’s best for us and of course, trying to save a life-giving organ. But it would, generally speaking, deliver a blow to my health, and I don’t wish to go down a road of taking medicines to counteract the side effects of the others I am put on etc.
When all said and done, if I feel like shit because of medication, the last thing I’d want is to put a baby in there, no matter how likely or unlikely I may be to change my mind.
But that’s all speculation until I find out what on earth my ovaries and uterus is actually up to. Chances are, it’s just doing a ‘five more minutes, I want to sleep!’ before kick-starting back into action again.
Generally, I do feel better not being on birth control anymore. It sucks not being able to take my reproductive autonomy completely by the horns. But having said that, I suppose I am in deciding not to take it.
Let’s see what happens and I’ll keep you all updated!
All my love,