Has faith changed how I view sex?

CW: Mentions of abortion, spousal abuse and religious themes. It's something that's not uncommon when one decides to follow a faith. I remember seeing in a documentary once, the host saying that "converts can be notoriously zealous". And that is true. Some can indeed become zealous to the point of a zealot. And one of …

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What does it mean to say I love you?

What does it mean to say, 'I love you'? Is it the calming hand on a shoulder, or taking them into your arms? Or you into theirs? Is it that glance across the room at them at a party? That familiar glint in their eye, of admiration, lust, friendship and a connection much deeper than …

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Defining yourself when you don’t fit in

CONTENT NOTE: Mentions of homophobia, religion and spiritual abuse. Reader discretion is advised. 'I am the sole author of the dictionary that defines me.' - Zadie Smith. When looking at this quote by the very talented Zadie Smith, I think a lot about what this means. The last few years have entailed a massive overhaul …

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