If I could sum up one word how the last few years in my sexual sphere has been, I’d say: interesting.

This is part of Food For Thought Friday’s prompt this week about what we know/how we feel about certain things compared to our younger selves.

What one part of your sex life today would most surprise the 18 year old you?

When it comes to my 18-year-old self,that wasn’t all that long ago as I’m now 23, soon to be 24.

Thinking back to how I was at 18, I was just starting university, working in a department store on the weekends, very “sweet and innocent” as everyone called me (apparently that’s the vibe I give off lol) etc. What would surprise would be that I took the step to explore my kinks and get to know a variety of different people in that scene and also to be in a serious long-term relationship.

What is one thing that might shock younger you?

The fact that I write erotic fiction and blog about sexy and kinky stuff.

Is there anything in younger you’s sexual ambitions or fantasies you have not yet fulfilled?

Ooooohhh so much stuff! lol Learning how to use a flogger properly (anything sexual aside, it just looks pretty damn cool lol) shibari ties, have a full-scale D/s scene etc.

I have kind of dabbled in my hotel room fantasy a while back. It was my 21st birthday and after a long day and even longer night out, me and my boyfriend returned to our suite in a swanky hotel we had booked for the night. About a week before I’d had my first little experiment with light bondage and OTK spanking (with a clitoral vibrator going full tilt as well, that coupled with OTK spanking meant some killer orgasms) which was fun so we decided to do it again.

Again, it was fun and naughty, something to giggle over at the time, and had some pretty darn awesome sex to go with it!

I’d love to revisit some hotel room action but in a D/s scene with what I know now 😊 To be in that headspace in a grand space all dressed up, wined and dined…ooohhh my goodness, calm down woman!! 😂

What part of the younger you’s sex life do you look back on with the most nostalgia?

Probably when me and my boyfriend first started dating. Before I met him, as far as sex went I had only lost my virginity and that was 18 months before we got together. I look back fondly because my boyfriend, with more experience than me, was incredibly patient and really led me through my next chapter in sexual experience so to speak.

In the first few weeks of our relationship, we would make love all night until the sun came up. We definitely would have carried on doing that, but after a while you begin to get tired from a messed up sleep pattern along with the many times we were both nearly late for work! 😂 Ahhh good times 😊

All my love,

Violet xx

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