If there’s one thing I absolutely love, it’s hearing a man during sex. I don’t care if it’s heavy breath, sighs, moans, grunts, a combination of all, either way it’s wonderful.

Whether I sigh, moan, scream etc. truthfully it all depends on the kind of sex I’m having and what I’m feeling at the time.

Noise during sex is something over the last few months I’ve been feeling a little self-conscious about. I started retreating in to my shell a little bit, wondering if I, “sounded weird” and if I should or shouldn’t make noise. This kind of uncertainty can really make sex difficult at times. Even if you’re having the best sex of your life, if your mind is in that space, you won’t be able to let go and enjoy it.

Being intimate with a man and hearing the sounds that come with it, for me, takes that experience to a whole new level. Sex itself can feel amazing, but with the auditory, along with the melting pot of sensory stimulus is like the extra cherry on top of a delicious sundae. Our brains are the biggest sex organs we have. Without them, we wouldn’t have those lovely rushes of feel good hormones, tingly nerve responses and all that good stuff.

Also, what I love about it is it triggers the imagination (going back to the brain as the biggest sex organ). While visual material like porn can be good, it’s right there in front of you and can be quite exaggerated. With audio/hearing your partner in the heat of the moment, really lets my imagination run wild and just get consumed by the myriad of sensations I’m feeling.

Another part of being vocal I absolutely adore is dirty talk, again for the same reasons. Sets off the imagination, it’s playful, it’s fun, it can change the entire tone of what’s going on etc. Whether the mood’s tender words of love or full scale filth, coupled with the physical sensations of sex, it feels like a sensory overload of the most delicious kind.

I do sigh, moan, groan etc. when having sex and I’ve loved hearing it from men I’ve been close with in the past, be it from a romantic smooch to full sex. To what degree does it happen? It really depends on what’s happening. Sex is one of those things where it’s go with flow and that includes in being vocal. Just losing yourself in the feelings and doing what comes naturally to you.

My boyfriend told me he likes it when I am vocal in bed (he groans, moans sighs same as me, and hearing him climax is just delicious!) and not to be self-conscious, so I’ve been focussing on just trying to let go and not be so concerned with what sounds I make per se and just let it happen.

All my love,

Violet xx

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