In case you haven’t noticed already, I love orgasms. All of them: me having orgasms, my boyfriend having orgasms, seeing orgasms, hearing orgasms, the whole shebang. Orgasms are pretty awesome. Even if I don’t have sex, I’ve found getting myself off, orgasm or no in fact, can be a great stress reliever, help me sleep, clear my head and help if I have a headache. Pretty cool!
There’s no one cookie-cutter way to have an orgasm. Everyone is different. Usually we expect the loud moaning, screaming our lover’s name, exactly like we see on screen. But that’s not always the case, and it can happen all too often that people think may think they’ve had the ‘wrong kind of orgasm’ as it’s either not what they expected, or what they’ve seen in movies/porn.
Not to shame or trash talk porn performers and their orgasms by any means. But as I’m sure most performers will tell you: every orgasm is different, and they are professionals performing a fantasy for our viewing pleasure. And as many of us have found out, by one way or another, what we see can be very different to the everyday relationship or sexual encounter.
Every orgasm is different for every body. Here are some of mine:
THE GENTLE WASH
Yes, I know that sounds like I’m about to take a bath but I promise, it’s an orgasm. But orgasms in the bath are awesome too…just thought I’d mention that…
This is the one where there’s no spasms, no contractions, just a pleasant, tingly rush throughout my body. It’s like that ‘feels so good’ feeling when you get all cosy after a long, hard day. Mmmmmm…
THE PULSE AND SPASM
This one’s pretty self-explanatory. One of the best and sure fire ways for me to orgasm is through clitoral stimulation, and this orgasm is good. I feel my vaginal muscles contract as my orgasm comes. Each contraction sends pulses permeating through my body from between my legs. My body takes on a mind of its own, moving and rocking in tandem with each pulse until I’m a flushed, hot mess. Cue the bursts of heavy breathing and hushed moans.
THE QUIET, COSY YET POWERFUL
This is one of my favourites. All too often we can think if our orgasms aren’t loud and uncontrollable, something’s wrong. From first-hand experience, I can vouch otherwise, at least for myself anyway.
Some of the best, most powerful orgasms I’ve had are the quiet ones, where you’re all snuggled up in bed and just focusing on how good it feels, and you get completely overtaken by this orgasm when in comes. The pleasure is gentle and honey-sweet. It’s the serene, sleepy Sunday morning sex of orgasms. It’s a sensual rush that just makes me want to get all snuggly (even more so than I do after sex!) afterwards.
This orgasm can happen with any of these others. This is where my orgasms quite literally ripple through me, one right after the other, no breaks in between. It’s the multiple orgasms (which are also great) I can have but without the breather. This one is merciless in the most delicious way.
I’ve experienced ripple orgasms through clitoral stimulation in masturbation often, but never through sex until a few years ago. That desperate ‘I need you’ sex with the clitoral stimulation together? *chef’s kiss* I couldn’t control my movements or noises, and felt so good at one point I thought I was going to pass out if I had more orgasms. So yeah…pretty good!
This is the ‘oh my God, I’ve been possessed by a nymphomaniacal sex demon, and I love every minute of it’ orgasm. I can’t hold back, I’m screaming, groaning, growling, moaning and when the peak of the climax hits, I feel like I’ve seen Valhalla. I may even cry it feels so good.
It’s one of those that can include g-spot stimulation, clitoral stimulation, anal play, sometimes all three. It depends entirely on the mood, position, circumstances etc. Either way, when a ‘screamer’ happens, you know about it!