I love fishnets. But the last time I wore fishnets in public, I got some looks. It was years ago, and I’d just finished a show for a university performance. After the show, the cast and friends decided in true performer style, to go out on the town.
I wore a clingy black wrap dress, sleeveless, V-neck but not too booby, and the skirt above the knee. Along with the Snow White-esque makeup, red lips and all with the curled dark hair. I decided to step out of my comfort zone and don some standard fishnets with my heels, instead of my then go-to opaque, black tights.
I looked what some might consider ‘slutty’. Legs out, high heels and fishnets. Fishnets have been long associated with what sex workers, those who have worked the streets or otherwise, wear (sex work is work and they should be treated with respect). Including low cut tops and heavy makeup. So, all in one? Given fishnets were always associated to me with dancing (having done Musical Theatre in college, where fishnets are a go-to) I’d worn them for shows a fair bit.
I wasn’t a stranger to the its other perceptions, but I figured the skirt not being uber short would balance it out a bit. I may have blended in in a nightclub, but I may have overdressed a bit. But I was known for dressing up and I enjoyed it, so why not, and who cares? In retrospect I say with no arrogance intended, that in that outfit I looked fucking hot. However, being a curvy gal even with my then dancer-like body (ah, hormonal birth control side effects. Thou art a heartless bitch) I may have underestimated the fit of the dress on my shape and how it would cling.
The looks I got? Mainly from two men in their 40s/50s at the bar, when I was walking past them and/or ordering a drink at the bar. I thought they were wondering what on earth I was wearing there, and perhaps they were. But after the second and third time going to the bar or walking past to head to the ladies room, the way they were looking made me really uncomfortable. It was a look of interest, but not the nice sort. Not even one of ‘I want to fuck you’. It was that look. Those who’ve been on the receiving end know what I mean. It was a look that if I could put into words, would be something like this:
If I went for it, how much do you think I could haggle for her to suck my dick?
And anyone who has been the receiver of that look knows it elicits the following response: shudders and skin crawling.
It reinforced the very archaic teaching we’re taught as women: that our worth is determined by how we dress. The fishnets and red lipstick was the selling points for those apparently. So against my feelings of ‘I’m wearing something I feel good in, what of it?’ I reached for my cardigan. The looks weren’t as much then. And the fact they noticed I wasn’t alone. Another reinforcement. Feel good, but in a controlled way. We don’t want to provoke the rabid urges of the menfolk, after all. Ugh.
Since then, not by any active choice, I’ve just not really thought about it, I’ve not worn fishnets in public. Though I plan to change that. Perhaps purchase some and pair them up with one of the few skirts I have in my possession. I really like fishnets. They do add a sexier, naughtier, even sluttier if you will, edge to what outfit I’m wearing, at least for me anyway. Maybe even some Russian Red lipstick. Oh, what a hussy I am!
I think it’s about time me and ‘Slutty Snow White’ had a long overdue revival.
*One of my goals for 2020 is to be able to commission customised artwork for Life of Violet. If you would like to support my blog, be it for this, or you just want to keep your girl caffeinated whilst I write, please consider buying me a coffee. Xx
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Becoming Violet Grey 
There’s no need for men to get any woman like that.
What kind of are you going to be producing? Hope you’re well 😀
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I’ve got nothing against people who see sex workers, providing they treat sex workers well. I’m vehemently for full decriminalisation and that it’s a mutual transaction, and the client and SW can have a great time while the client treats them with the respect they deserve 😊 It’s that generalised ‘you exist solely for my pleasure and you attire means I’m entitled to you’ way of thinking I take particular exception to. Boils my blood it does!
What kind of what am I going to be producing?
I’m alright thanks Simon, hope you are too 😊
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Sure I get ya and I totally agree. I meant what kind of artwork are you going to produce?
I’m good thanks. Been a long day.
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Oh right! 😂 I thought autocorrect was up to its pesky tricks again lol I’d like to commission an artist to produce some art specific to the blog 😊
Glad to hear it love xo Make sure to get some rest! 😊
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I’m not saying I’m the greatest artist in the world… But I’ll have a go if I know what you would like.
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Thank you that’s really sweet of you! 😊 I’ll be out of pocket for commissioning for a good while yet, but I’ll definitely keep your offer in mind when the time comes if that’s OK 😊 And yes get some rest!! 😂
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I’ll do some work to get the experience if I can… I did thanks 😀👍
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You too love. I’m going to now 😂
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Fishnets are damn hot.
Women are wearing less and less hosiery, so could some of the looks just be people unaccustomed to seeing a women dressed like that?
As for the perverts who made you feel uncomfortable, shame on them.
As for your decision to wear them “making you feel sexier and sluttier.”
Good for you.
Almost makes me want to peel on a pair.
Hopw you are well. Missed reading you.
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It could have been, I did stick out a bit compared to the more casual wear! 😂
It is what it is, I still had a good night either way 😊
Thank you! Peel on a pair on you or me?! 😂
I saw your recent posts and it’s great to have you back. I’ve missed seeing your posts and I hope all goes well in April. Keeping you in my prayers and feel free to drop me an email if you want to have a chat ♥️♥️
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Grateful for your words prayers.
You peel them on, I bet they look better on you than me. xo
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I’ll be sure to! 😂 Oh I don’t know, I’m sure you can pull them off 😂
Take care of yourself xx
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LOL. Thanks. I will.
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I know exactly what kind of looks you mean, as I have gotten them too when I wore my fishnets out and my dress/skirt was not even that short. People seem to always have the wrong idea in mind when they see fishnets. I refuse to let them stop me from wearing them 😉
Rebel xox
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Nor should they stop you! 🙂 I might get some for Eroticon I think, wear them in a space I feel a bit more comfortable to do so 😉 xx
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