EDIT NOTE: Made a few adjustments to this post and I accidently deleted it š So posting again. Take 2…
My journey in to exploring BDSM is fairly new. But how Iāve seen myself in that world has been inside me for much longer than that. The most accurate word for me that I can say what I am, is a switch. Meaning I can switch between a dominant and submissive role.
Like how I know Iām attracted to the opposite sex, being a switch is something I just feel in my bones. I may not be a hard core kinkster (I prefer the more sensual elements of D/s, but thatās just me.) but having the mixture of both dominant and submissive is a strong part of me.
Though in my last post I called myself, āvanilla with sprinklesā (which I very much am lol) and that many facets of BDSM just donāt do it for me personally (I.e. any kind of humiliation/degradation is an absolute no-no for me) I feel itās important to learn about sex, sexuality, and the psychology behind it all.
Not only to become more knowledgeable of whatās around you, but to be more knowledgeable about yourself. That aside, itās just a really interesting subject! *impending bookworm alert!!*
Like I said in my last post, hopefully Iāll be able to get a Masterās in the study of human sexuality in a few years, if I can save enough money for it!
That and with writing, I want to make sure what Iām depicting in a snippet or story is as accurate as I can make it, not misrepresenting a facet or perpetuating a misconception. I.e. I wouldnāt want to write a D/s scene where an experienced Dom is using a Shibari tie in a completely wrong and unsafe way to the sub. Just the thought of that makes me shudder! šØ
So even if I may not personally be in to what Iām writing, learning not just for writing, but to learn anyway, in my eyes can only be a good thing.
Like what Dr. Ruth said; something along the lines of, āItās important to be sexually literate. You may not like any of it but at least you know about it.ā
Iām rambling nowā¦anywhoā¦
Wherever I stand personally on this topic, I want to maintain this as a judge-free zone for all you lovely people š Some people like Shibari (side note: the artistic patterns are beautiful! š± ) some M/s, some only the occasional blindfold from time to time, some nothing at allā¦and thatās absolutely fine!
As long as itās between consenting adults, youāre being safe, limits and boundaries are respected etc. who am I (or anyone for that matter) to judge? You do you š
All my love,
Violet xx
Ugh I hate when that happens -losing all that work!
I too like sensual D/s. Along with a lot of other things.
I love to read about self discoveries. Hope to read more from you as time goes on. Xo
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Yeah, so annoying! š Thankfully I had it saved so I didn’t have to start from scratch again š
Thank you, that means a lot š Love reading your tales as well! There’ll be more to come! Xo
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