EDIT NOTE: Made a few adjustments to this post and I accidently deleted it 😒 So posting again. Take 2…

My journey in to exploring BDSM is fairly new. But how I’ve seen myself in that world has been inside me for much longer than that. The most accurate word for me that I can say what I am, is a switch. Meaning I can switch between a dominant and submissive role.

Like how I know I’m attracted to the opposite sex, being a switch is something I just feel in my bones. I may not be a hard core kinkster (I prefer the more sensual elements of D/s, but that’s just me.) but having the mixture of both dominant and submissive is a strong part of me.

Though in my last post I called myself, “vanilla with sprinkles” (which I very much am lol) and that many facets of BDSM just don’t do it for me personally (I.e. any kind of humiliation/degradation is an absolute no-no for me) I feel it’s important to learn about sex, sexuality, and the psychology behind it all.

Not only to become more knowledgeable of what’s around you, but to be more knowledgeable about yourself. That aside, it’s just a really interesting subject! *impending bookworm alert!!*

Like I said in my last post, hopefully I’ll be able to get a Master’s in the study of human sexuality in a few years, if I can save enough money for it!

That and with writing, I want to make sure what I’m depicting in a snippet or story is as accurate as I can make it, not misrepresenting a facet or perpetuating a misconception. I.e. I wouldn’t want to write a D/s scene where an experienced Dom is using a Shibari tie in a completely wrong and unsafe way to the sub. Just the thought of that makes me shudder! 😨

So even if I may not personally be in to what I’m writing, learning not just for writing, but to learn anyway, in my eyes can only be a good thing.

Like what Dr. Ruth said; something along the lines of, “It’s important to be sexually literate. You may not like any of it but at least you know about it.”

I’m rambling now…anywho…

Wherever I stand personally on this topic, I want to maintain this as a judge-free zone for all you lovely people 😊 Some people like Shibari (side note: the artistic patterns are beautiful! 😱 ) some M/s, some only the occasional blindfold from time to time, some nothing at all…and that’s absolutely fine!

As long as it’s between consenting adults, you’re being safe, limits and boundaries are respected etc. who am I (or anyone for that matter) to judge? You do you 🙂

All my love,

Violet xx