EDIT NOTE: This is a rejigged version of a post that was on my previous site.

When it comes to relationships, I’ve always preferred gentlemen who are older than me.

Disclaimer: I’m not wishing to generalise anyone by their age. Everyone is different and I’m only going from my own personal experiences.

Also, no, I’m not a gold digger. A person can have all the money in the world and look like an Adonis, but if they’re horrid, inconsiderate and rude I wouldn’t want to talk to them.

My nearest and dearest have always said as I was growing up through to now thatI’m apparently mature for my age (I personally think that’s debatable haha! 😂) and said many times that I would be better on the relationship front with someone older.

When I was in my uni years, when I really got exposed to going out and socialising with lots of people at any one time, whenever I got along well with a gentleman, they were always older than me to some degree.

Not through any design or ageism, it just happened like that.

This is reflected in my relationship. I’m a woman in her early 20s, my boyfriend is in his early 30s. Not a gargantuan age gap but a gap nonetheless.

When we met not long after I finished university, we were both a little shy. But once we started talking, we really hit it off. We found we had a lot in common, particularly surrounding relationships, as we’re both a little old-school in that respect.

But whenever there is a gap, it’s always a given that both parties are at different points in their lives. When I met my now boyfriend, I’d only had one very short lived relationship to my name, whereas he was ready to start settling down.

I was worried that this would cause problems or friction in our developing romance due to my very limited dating experience, but it wasn’t the case with him.

He was very patient with me and never rushed things, being nothing short of an absolute gentleman. I felt I could be completely myself around him and felt entirely comfortable, and with that we fell in love not long afterwards.

In a way, I feel our gap in age has really complimented our relationship.

His more years of life experience has helped guide me through some tough times and supported each other in a way I might not necessarily have had with someone my own age.

Plus, it feels really good to put aside that pressure of “go crazy in your 20s” when it comes to guys (I openly admit I was never cut out for things like one nights or fwb, or modern dating as a whole for that matter. I’m too much of an old school romantic) and work on building a relationship with someone special.

As far as our age gap goes (apart from when we talk about shows we grew up with 😂) we hardly notice it!

All my love,

Violet xx